Years ago, when we first saw the house we live in now, my husband loved it. It was a sturdy Dutch colonial, built in the 1920s, that matched all our “must-have” criteria: 3 bedrooms, large living room, fireplace, eat-in kitchen, pretty street.
It was a rainy day when we came to the open house. And, it didn’t help that the interior decoration was dark and that there had been no attempt at all to hide the clutter throughout the home. To me, it seemed dreary, drab and very unappealing.
But the house had great “bones”: the structure was sound, and it didn’t need any major repair work. My husband convinced me it was the right house for us.
So, the negotiating began. As I had no emotional attachment to the house, we agreed that I would handle the bidding. Good thing too. The asking price was way over our budget. However, as it was a buyers’ market, I held fast to a realistic number that I knew we could afford.
The owners didn’t like it (can’t blame them), and the real estate agent kept trying to get us to raise our offer. My husband started getting anxious that we were going to lose the house. He also started doubting me and our initial decision, and wanted to up the price. He was already emotionally invested.
I held steady, and, after a month of waiting, we got our house at our price.
Emotion is a beautiful thing. It’s often the reason we buy in. But, sometimes, when we’re making difficult (and costly) decisions that will have a long-term impact on our future, we need to take a step back and think logically. We need to let our practical selves take charge. It’s amazing how clear things become when we do this.
I love our house now. It’s decorated in our style and our taste. It feels great. It feels like home. I did get emotionally invested after the big decision was made.
So, when you need to make a big decision in your career, try taking the emotion out. Just like our house, make sure the “bones” of your decision are good, and that the structure and reasoning are sound.
Then, stand your ground, and go for it.