Often, when things aren’t going well at work, your mind begins to race a million miles an hour, mostly with negative thoughts which are mostly directed at your self-esteem.
You ask “Why did I do that?” and say, “I look like an idiot.” “That person definitely doesn’t like me.” “I don’t know what I did wrong, but I know it is me.” “I can’t do this.” “I’m going to fail at this like I fail at everything else.” “I give up.”
Now, think if you heard these words coming from your close friend. A friend who’s down on herself like this, and shares her greatest fears with you.
What would you do?
You’d show compassion. You would talk her up. You’d comfort her, and remind her of all the wonderful things she’s accomplished. You’d reassure her by telling her that she’s capable of achieving anything.
You must be able to do this for yourself.
When your negative thoughts start racing and you attack your self-esteem, counter it with positive self-talk. Calm yourself with compassion. Talk to yourself with confidence. See all the positive and wonderful things in you like you see them in everyone else.
Talk to yourself like you are your own best friend, because, after all, you are.
Try it and see.
Copyright 2014 Michelle Kerrigan