How do you know what you want (and love) to do?

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“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”—Steve Jobs

This is great advice, however, it is extremely frustrating—and confidence shaking—when you have absolutely no clue about what you want to do.

I’ve coached many people over the years who suffer from lack of clarity. I’ve even been there a few times myself. It is uncomfortable and draining because you’re in a constant state of confusion and indecision.

However, there are a few ways to help ease your journey. Here are 3 helpful tips:

  1. Keep a “Joy” journal. I read that description somewhere a long time ago, and it sounded ridiculous. But, it works! When you are doing something you love, take note of what it is.  Then, after a few weeks or months, look for patterns. Trust me, they will appear. For instance, I found that I felt great when I was leading a team and  helping people feel less stress and more success in the workplace.
  2. Ask yourself: “If I could have my own business, what would it be, and why?” Don’t worry about practicality here, such as costs or even the fact that you may not want to actually own a business. It’s just a fun exercise to discover where your passions lie.
  3. Create your own vision—where do you see yourself in 5 years? Very important: Let your imagination run wild here—don’t edit yourself. Anything goes! And, think BIG. Write it down—get it out of your head and on to paper. You will be amazed! Then, work backwards from your vision by asking yourself what steps do you need to take now to bring you closer to your goal. (Note: I enjoyed doing this with a trusted friend because we encouraged each other. If you do decide to collaborate, pick a friend, family member or coach who is positive and supportive. Someone who will help lift you up–not push you down– to help you get where you want to be!)

These exercises are not only fun, they allow your creativity to run wild without censorship, and help you focus on who you are and what you love to do. And, it’s amazing what bubbles up! The universe has a funny way of answering your calling with opportunity. For instance, I envisioned myself having my own TV show—and now, I do!

Once you have a destination that stems from desire, it’s much easier to take steps to get there.

Good luck on your journey!!


Copyright 2014 Michelle Kerrigan


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