“If you don’t like change, you’re going to like irrelevance even less.”—General Eric Shinseki I recently heard this quote at a conference, and found it fitting this Memorial Day weekend as it comes from a war hero who is the first Asian-American 4-star general. The rate of change in the world has never been this
There are so many definitions of confidence. Here are just 2 for starters. They appeared when I googled the question: “Confidence is the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something.” “Confidence is an expectation of a positive outcome.” People have often asked me what my definition of confidence is, so here
During a snowstorm on Sunday, we lost our phone, TV and internet in the middle of the night. On Monday, we finally scheduled a service call, after trying everything we could to reboot our devices. As the weather in New York has been pretty treacherous these last few weeks, there was a long wait for
What would you be doing differently if you had more confidence at work? Would you ask for that raise you’ve always wanted? Would you invite a cute colleague out for a drink? Would you tell a lazy co-worker he’s not pulling his weight? Or, would you finally look for your dream job—one you love and
So—we’re up to the next way you give your power away at work. To refresh your memory, here are the first 4: You spend too much time and energy trying to change others. You put all your career eggs in one basket You allow other people to define you. You can’t disconnect and just be.
I ordered my first back brace the other day. I was starting to experience some lower back pain, so my doctor recommended wearing a brace, especially when I weight train. On my first visit to the gym with the new support, I asked my trainer if I was wearing it correctly. She adjusted it and
There are many ways you give your power away in your career, often without you even knowing it. I’ve been sharing a few of these with you. The first 2–spending too much time and energy trying to change others, and putting all your career eggs in one basket—are discussed in prior posts. Here’s the third
This week’s tips are about keeping your network alive and well so you can navigate career change with skill and confidence. Remember: Gone are the days when a company takes care of you. Now, it’s you take care of you! And, networking is a big part of that. If you’re nervous networking, act like a
It’s getting close to Sunday night, when many people begin to get anxious—very anxious. It’s a ritual that many of us feel: a foreboding about what’s to come tomorrow. This not only makes us anxious about the future; it also destroys our present moment—the few remaining hours of our weekend. Counter that ritual with another:
I had lunch with a friend yesterday, and she shared her hesitation about taking a trip to Eastern Europe—something she has always wanted to do. She needs to take a break from her work as a private investigator, but, like many people in business, has doubts about investing the time and money in a vacation
I had lunch the other day with a friend who had recently been downsized. She spoke non-stop about all the things she would NOT do in her future career. After 30 minutes of negativity, I finally stopped her. I told her that all I was hearing was “No, no, no, no.” I get this. When
“At 37, Jeter might never again play the game the way he once did. But he still can show you how to win.” This quote is from a 2011 NY Post article by Steve Serby. He is speaking about Derek Jeter, who had recently suffered a calf injury and was in rehabilitation in Tampa, Florida.